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Stop A Divorce Now - Severe Problems

Stop A Divorce Now - If your problems are severe? Though you both really want to fix them, you have no idea where to begin. You may want to consider professional help.  Though, if you are going to take this route it is wise to thoroughly research the person or group you plan to use. Even if the marriage counselor or
family therapist is professionally skilled and devoted to his or her clients, you may find that you do not ‘click’ with their style or techniques. Your
marriage is very personal to you and you need to feel comfortable with the person you choose to help you resolve your problems. When you consider the statistics, a recent study revealed that about one third of those actively working on marriage issues, chose to involve a counselor. Some of these instances involved one spouse attending therapy, others involved couples therapy. 

But, though many people felt that counseling got them started, very few attributed their success in resolving issues to the therapist or counselor.  
Most felt that the work was done by the husband and wife and that the counselor merely got them started. In some cases, a counselor can seem like a threat, and if your spouse feels that the counselor isn’t helping, or that the counselor is merely taking your money to listen to you babble, you aren’t likely to get much out of the sessions. Sometimes, the involvement of a counselor can seem to a spouse as if they are being judged or condemned for not ‘being a good enough spouse’, or as if the counselor is trying to ‘control’ the situation.

When you consider professional assistance, be sure that it is going to work for you and your spouse. If you want to go to counseling as an individual to help you clarify and work through some issues, that may be fine.   If your spouse is all right with that and doesn’t feel as if you are talking behind
his or her back, individual therapy might be the best thing for all concerned. But, keep in mind that your decision to go to counseling alone does not
free your spouse from working on the relationship. If your spouse does not want to go, you need to carefully ask how he or she will be guided to work
through the issues and if they feel comfortable handling the situation without guidance. Whether or not you use a professional, be sure that you are
both committed to working through the process and to staying on track. If you are not ready or committed to work through your problems, there is the potential to spend a lot of money on professional counseling and get nothing in the bargain.

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